How often do you think about what skills you are teaching your children regarding different ways to handle problems, questions and developments that we routinely encountered in our daily lives?

I have four beautiful children, each one unique, but when they were little, I had to do everything for them.  I made sure they got the proper nutrition, plenty of rest and lots of exercise, with outdoor activities exposing them to the world.  I would brush their teeth, comb their hair, pick out their clothes and prepare every meal for them. 

During the elementary school years, kids learn to separate, (this was hard for two of my kids), get along with other kids, share and take turns. 

Middle school provides an opportunity to resolve conflicts, learn the true value in organizational skills and develop some independence.  Although I have only a freshman in high school, he picks his own classes, chooses his own friends and makes decisions I used to make for him.    

Yes, there is a natural progression to raising a child.  They mature and grow up, whether we want them to or not. Along the way, we influence these precious little souls that are placed only temporarily in our care. 

But what about the actual skills it takes to send an 18-year-old child into the world?  How do you raise a child to grow up and live an independent, productive life? 

I’m curious, what life skills are you teaching your children to help the character they become? 

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Editor's Note:  Stacey LaViola is a member of our Eureka-Wildwood new Moms' Council, which is a group of parents who volunteer as community leaders and who will lead us through important, online discussions. Moms' Council members are serving to help shape and influence our Patch content to assist busy parents. 

Stacey LaViola moved to West St. Louis County four years ago after living abroad in Berlin, Germany.  She has traveled extensively throughout Europe, as well as parts of the United States, Asia and the Middle East. Stacey became a bona fide homemaker in 1996 after retiring from her successful career with an environmental company in San Diego, CA. Today she combines her extensive parenting experiences with her management abilities, and volunteers at her children’s schools, community church and with various Parent-Teacher Organizations.